The hazy crazy world of the “ADHD” mind.
I know it oh so well, the confusion, the energy, the randomness, the genius, the defeat. The oh my God how the hell can I sit here, still, think, and get this shit done, I can’t even remember the first step is to find my chair. Focus. On WHAT???
In a world where we are judged by hammering out spreadsheets, and data, making succinct targeted phone calls, and burning through emails, we drown. Grab it, get that info, regurgitate it and turn it in. Fill it out, fill it in, get it done. Do your job, do your homework and then do it again…the same way. We’re building here. Ugh.
I never knew that I was/had a creative mind. I grew up the world of convention and intellectualism. Art was something we appreciated, what we did was another matter entirely.
In school I preformed well on a math assessment test. I couldn’t draw a picture. Clearly, I was to be an intellectual, a scholar, some type of professional, and artists mind you, were not professionals, they were artists. So, I signed up for science classes and math classes, and writing, all your run of the mill stuff, but I failed in honoring the creative nature of my mind. It’s not that I was doomed to failure in those arenas, and yes I realize they involve creativity. It’s that rote memorization and paper trails were death to me, and as I sat in that little classroom staring up out the window, my little butterfly wings were scissored into listlessness, mere nubs of what they might have been.
But along the way angels dropped their fairy dust, and eventually a new world blossomed.
Ditch the black and white.
Is your planner, black and white? Is all your structure confined to ugly boring notebooks, and sad never visited files on your computer? Do your pens consist of black and blue?
Do you believe markers are for kindergarteners? Have you ever touched and oil pencil?
Color up your world sister!
Trash the boring. Throw out drudgery.
Go to the bookstore or online and get yourself some eye candy, buy yourself a little inspiration.
Here’s a few of my favorites:
This brings me to tip 2:
You don’t need a plan.
“ADHD” types are doers. We get bogged down in planning.
Structure will come from letting go of needing to know how it all will be organized, all the little steps. Let go of the predoing. Just get doing.
We are the poster children for procrastination via over analysis. I think a lot of this has to do with the struggle to find our fit, our failure complexes. How often have we screwed up? We judge ourselves harshly for our mess ups, we feel as if everyone else is getting it and we’re still lost in the cloud. That’s not true, but when growing up and the most simple of tasks are always left incomplete, or completely overlooked, we get complexes.
So when getting your new gorgeous colored paper and notebooks, just use them, for nothing in particular. Look at them, scribble on them, draw little pictures. Leave them out looking lovely. See how they ignite you, inspire you, get to doing and see how it evolves. Forget planning, clarity will come.
Purge it. Get rid of it. Throw it away. Give it to charity.
Grab a wild case of the fuck its. Be ruthless.
Again, don’t plan. Just do.
Do what’s in front of you, clear it, keep moving. If you feel bogged down and overwhelmed ask yourself this question:
What’s right in front of me? Dishes? Do them. Laundry? Do it. Now. Don’t save it for later.
We must have a clear visual space.
Sometime spent using Adderall taught me this. Visual clearing makes the difference. It completely calms my mind, I cannot walk into a trashy cluttered space and think. All that mess jumps into my brain and I can’t find what to focus on, it’s a direct translation. The unfortunate flip-side is that we tend to fear losing track, of missing something or forgetting something, so we often have hording tendencies. Stacks of paper, notorious. If you ever need that insurance paper from 1999 you’ll be able to find it much easier online than truly having any hope of finding it in one of your coveted paper piles. Get rid of it!
Give yourself one box you can collect all your, I just can’t let it go or look at it yet stuff, and get rid of the rest. You’ll thank me, I promise you.
Food is your fuel. Your brain will not function properly without proper nutrition.
Glitch in the matrix? Try giving it a molecule, complete the circuit. Known simply, as food.
There’s much to dive into on this subject. For now, treat processed food like it’s poison, because it is. And eat your vegetables, because your mama said so…hopefully.
I mean the kind of support that loves to see you smile. The support that helps where it can, without criticism. Friends, coaches, professionals who can take tasks off your plate. No one is an island, this includes you dear. Your not suppose to be good at everything, find people who will help you. Do you need that BFF to come help you gut out those kitchen cabinets? Call her!
Call the people who speak of your talents, who appreciate your insight, who love your sense of humor.
Stop making yourself wrong and you will invite people into your life who don’t make you wrong. That is support.
Tip for parents:
Check out Montessori, if you’ve checked it out, give it big consideration. If I had had a Montessori education… oh if I.
Extra credit. OMG I never get here!!!!